Empowering other people is productive. But giving away your personal power sabotages your chances of success. Giving away your power robs you of mental strength and derails you from your goals. There are several ways you might be leaking your power. You might not even realize you’re doing it.
Signs of leaking your power include:
- Giving in to guilt trips. If you really don’t want to do something, be strong enough to stick to your choices, even when someone tries to take you on a guilt trip.
- Self-worth is tied to other people’s opinions of you. Not everyone is going to like you. But, you don’t have to let one person’s opinion define who you are or how you feel about yourself.
- Difficulty setting boundaries. You get to decide who to allow into your life. If you grow resentful of people who take up too much of your energy, it’s a sign you aren’t setting clear boundaries.
- Complaining about all the things you have to do. You decide how to spend your time. No one forces you to go to see the dentist, or attend that family gathering.
- Hold grudges. Whether someone hurt you yesterday or 10 years ago, holding a grudge allows that person to take up more space in your life.
Take Back Your Power
Commit to becoming the driver—rather than the passenger—in your life. Decide that you’re going to be in control of how you think, feel, and behave regardless of the situation you find yourself in.
Business Change & Transition Strategist, Marie-Helene Sakowski at firstname.lastname@example.org